being your own hero

I mentioned Rhonda Britten yesterday.  I’m slowly making my way through some exercises in her book, Fearless Living.  I’ve tackled fear.  Now, it’s time to make a Wheel of Freedom.

Make a hero list.  Who are the five people–dead or alive–real or fictional–that you most admire, respect, or secretly envy.

  • Mama
  • My Papa
  • MLK, Jr.
  • Rosa Parks
  • Paul Auster

Study the following list:

  • authentic
  • creative
  • compassionate
  • accountable
  • loving
  • beautiful
  • courageous

My essential is that I am _____________.
Courageous

From your hero list, pick one essential nature for each one.

  • Mama: authentic
  • My Papa: accountable
  • MLK, Jr.: courageous
  • Rosa Parks: courageous
  • Paul Auster: creative

Is what you picked as your essential nature the same of at least 3 out of 5 of your heroes?  The majority of your heroes’ essential natures is your essential nature.

No.  2 out of 5.  But I would say that all of my heroes are courageous–just maybe not the top thing I’d pick for them.

My true essential nature is that I am courageous.

Wholeness–

Study the following list:

  • integrity
  • personal power
  • self-acceptance
  • peace of mind
  • passion
  • intimacy
  • inspiration
  • confidence
  • inner joy
  • faith

If you could give one gift to the world as your contribution, which quality of wholeness would you choose?

self-acceptance

If you claim your essential nature by taking actions that are consistent with it, which of the expressions of wholeness will you feel?

  • integrity
  • personal power
  • self-acceptance
  • passion
  • intimacy
  • confidence
  • faith

When I claim my courageousness, I will feel integrity, personal power, self-acceptance, passion, intimacy, confidence, and faith.

Put an O next to the things you already do.  Put an X next to the ones you would naturally do if you attained wholeness.

  • Say I don’t know when I don’t know.  OX
  • Give a compliment. O
  • Ask for help. OX
  • Take a cooking class.
  • Learn a new sport.
  • Be honest. OX
  • Stand out in a crowd. O
  • Confess your blunders to friends. OX
  • Say no when you mean no. OX
  • Accept compliments.  X
  • Take a break. OX
  • Give gifts for no reason.  OX
  • Stargaze. OX
  • Smile at strangers. OX
  • Cultivate good friends. X
  • Make a daily checklist.
  • Keep a journal. O
  • Ask for something you want. OX
  • Share your interests with others. OX
  • Risk embarrassment. OX
  • Hire a coach.
  • Attend a craft fair.
  • Be considerate in traffic. OX
  • Forgive yourself or someone else. OX
  • Speak the truth. OX
  • Listen. OX
  • Brainstorm. OX
  • Initiate conversations. OX
  • Complete the task in front of you.  OX
  • Let someone else go first. OX
  • Paint a wall. O
  • Wear something daring. X
  • Pamper yourself. OX
  • Send a love note. X
  • Hug. X
  • Take a nature walk. OX
  • Hit a pillow.
  • Spend time alone. OX
  • Ask questions. OX
  • Lie on the grass. OX
  • Focus on hobbies. OX
  • Knit.
  • Do research on the Web. OX
  • Join a dating service.
  • Express gratitude daily. OX
  • Adjust your standards. OX
  • Renegotiate agreements. OX
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